Comments on: Love on the Rocks

By: A Friendly Interrogation « Sizzle Says

A Friendly Interrogation « Sizzle Says — Thu, 24 Jan 2008 16:11:50 +0000

[...] Knowing what we do (or some may not) about the history of your relationship with your father; what would you say/do if you had one more minute with him? [...]

By: sue

sue — Thu, 23 Mar 2006 15:05:09 +0000

Thank you for sharing this beautiful post, Siz… it’s not easy, is it?

By: Sarcomical

Sarcomical — Tue, 21 Mar 2006 07:20:51 +0000

i love how much this post captures how many different feelings we can have about the people we love. thank you for sharing. ;)

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Tue, 21 Mar 2006 06:38:46 +0000

*sigh*
big love to you from one who knows what it’s like

By: Neil

Neil — Mon, 20 Mar 2006 21:28:29 +0000

That was really lovely. You are lucky to have such great memories.

By: Melissa

Melissa — Mon, 20 Mar 2006 18:45:13 +0000

Absolutely beautiful. Like you, I still mark the anniversaries of my father. I don't know if I should, I don't know if I shouldn't, I just know that I do. You think of all the conversations you want to have, the good times they are missing, the memories you could be making. It's one of the most difficult things to go through, but the Tomato was right, it really is better to live a celebrated life rather than being haunted by the unknown.

I've thought of your sister since you told us all that she was pregnant and wondered if she feels some of the sadness that my own sister feels when she thinks of all the things Daddy is missing with her children.

Again, a beautiful and thoughtful post.

By: alissahttp://www.alissaclare.typepad.com

alissahttp://www.alissaclare.typepad.com — Mon, 20 Mar 2006 13:13:45 +0000

My mom has always told me that parents do the best they can at the time. I’m so glad to see that through all of the pain and heartache, you can still see the beauty and the love he showed you, even with his problems.

Beautiful Sizz, you’re in my thoughts today.

By: Bill

Bill — Mon, 20 Mar 2006 08:37:58 +0000

One of the great puzzles of life: what we love about someone is often the thing we end up hating about them, often the reason many relationships crap out.

My father was a drunk and I use to a hate him. I don't anymore. I actually remember the good times far more than the bad ones. And I also see much of him in me.

In the end, people are people and parents, suprisingly, are people too. They ride the rollercoaster the same way we do and they manage and fuck up and muddle through just like anyone.

I don't think my father became an alcoholic because he was predisposed to, though that may have been part of it. I think he did because he surrendered his passion to do what he thought he was supposed to - good respectable job to pay bills, provide a house and home and do what men of his generation were supposed to do. And he absolutely hated it. Absolutely hated it. But the bills were paid!

I think we all confuse what we think we should do and what we actually should do all the time.

By: Nihilistic

Nihilistic — Mon, 20 Mar 2006 01:34:22 +0000

I don’t think we can tell anyone they SHOULD be over something no matter now long its been. Some wounds heal very slowly. Some never heal – its different for each person. The important thing is you have a healthy outlook on the whole thing! ;)

By: sandrahttp://www.internalmonoblog.typepad.com/

sandrahttp://www.internalmonoblog.typepad.com/ — Mon, 20 Mar 2006 00:21:21 +0000

Sizz, I’m sorry for what you had to go through, glad that you’re able to remember all the good stuff so well and impressed that you’ve turned into the person you are.

And: holy shit. The more I read, the more I think, “we have a LOT in common…”