“I want to be chosen and I want to choose.”

Perhaps we are holding ourselves to higher standards than others do? Whatever it might be, those of us that create obstacles for ourselves eventually do find a way out of our funk. Friends and Family help to uphold the balance (to counteract the self doubt), but it really helps to listen AND have faith that they’re right.

You’re doing great, hun… one day at a time.

I am a self-saboteur too… but then, aren’t we all?

I have added you to my blogroll :)

Someone once asked me, “if your girlfriend was in the exact same position as you are .. what would you say to them?” My immediate reaction is that I would help get them through it and not beat themselves up over it. She then said, “well why can’t you do that for yourself?” It was like a light had gone on. Why am I more forgiving of other people yet when it comes to me I kick myself even when I’m down?

Our thoughts determine our feelings which determine our actions. And we don’t even realize that it’s happening. Keep writing yourself those letters and keep telling yourself that you’re beautiful and smart and awesome. Because you are and no one should tell you otherwise. Not even yourself.

Do I have a nickname? ;)

Ever notice how when someone chooses You, it’s always someone who wants something, or is icky? My friendA says it’s an old problem of,”You LIKE me? What’s wrong with you??” I dunno.

That all leads to– you meet someone fabulous who DOES like you back,and you asking,”Really?? Really you like me?? Are you sure? Because I really do have all these flaws…” I never can really believe it, when someone fabulous or cool likes me. Doesn’t seem…real. It’s easier to believe in needy/grabby/icky people that way, than someone I think truly wonderful liking me back– even if I have been working towards that goal! LOL.

Well…I finally copped to it. I DID want a relationship, just not the crappy ones I was settling for.

It was almost like God was waiting for me to be honest, because out of the dang blue a fabulous man has entered my life.

And as evidenced above, he gives some damn good advice.

Here’s your reminder: you totally rock!