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By: Releasing (Take 2) « Sizzle Says

Releasing (Take 2) « Sizzle Says — Thu, 25 Oct 2007 14:45:42 +0000

[...] (Take 2) October 25, 2007 Filed under: love, my neurosis — sizzlesays @ 7:45 am Another one of the truths I’ve held close is: Men [...]

By: Neil

Neil — Wed, 17 Oct 2007 22:23:58 +0000

That was extremely insightful. I think your big hurdle is that you are such a giving person that “being there for others” is a central part of your personality. You need to separate who you naturally from some unhealthy patterns in relationships. You are good enough to have a relationship with someone who is your equal and doesn’t need fixing.

By: jenny

jenny — Wed, 17 Oct 2007 18:47:36 +0000

um. stop. being. in. my. head.

growth, yeah…it’s good stuff.

By: AppleTree

AppleTree — Wed, 17 Oct 2007 14:02:43 +0000

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”

– Rumi

By: mumbly

mumbly — Wed, 17 Oct 2007 08:13:16 +0000

Why would this guy like me? and What on earth will I DO with myself if he doesn’t need me to fix anything? I’m useless. He’ll see I’m boring/not worth dating/blah blah blah. It’s such crap!

Unfortunately it’s worse than crap. Because sometimes us men mistake your neurosis or need to fix something, as a need to fix us! Giving us a faulty belief that were broken (and yes some of us are). A self fulfilling prophecy if you will. It’s odd how us humans seem to cross contaminate each other with our dis empowering beliefs. Luckily the reverse cures this ill. It just takes more time and patience than we care to put in.

And I agree with lefty, provided Pizza is included!

By: aimee/greeblemonkey

aimee/greeblemonkey — Wed, 17 Oct 2007 03:04:15 +0000

It’s a long hard road sister. One foot in front of the other. :)

By: Diane Mandy

Diane Mandy — Wed, 17 Oct 2007 02:43:14 +0000

Wow. Very powerful post. I had almost the opposite problem. For years, I couldn’t hold a relationship if I didn’t think I was needed in some way by the other person. I didn’t believe someone could love me for me and not for what I would bring to the relationship. People became my “projects.” Like you, once I recognized the error in my thinking, I could work toward correcting it. Not easy, but you can do it!

By: Airam

Airam — Wed, 17 Oct 2007 01:42:10 +0000

It’s funny how when things are going well and there is no drama to speak of people question what’s wrong with it!

By: Dawn

Dawn — Wed, 17 Oct 2007 00:44:28 +0000

I wonder if it’s our womanness that makes us want to fix things?

By: Hilly

Hilly — Tue, 16 Oct 2007 21:57:29 +0000

I don’t think most men would waste time on a woman they don’t find interesting or lovely in one way or the other, so yes…let that “truth” go.

My truth is that when I find someone that intriguing, I wonder…okay, what’s REALLY wrong with them?