Comments on: What’s Left To Do

By: Letter To A Friend « Sizzle Says

Letter To A Friend « Sizzle Says — Mon, 15 Sep 2008 14:42:46 +0000

[...] work number. I didn’t even know you had a job. It’s been weeks since our last exchange. I told him we aren’t speaking. He had no [...]

By: Double B

Double B — Sat, 12 Jul 2008 03:08:40 +0000

If you love someone, set them free. If it was meant to be… you know the rest. It is hardest to have faith in the hardest times. But we have to look out for ourselves first and foremost.

By: Carly

Carly — Fri, 11 Jul 2008 20:09:49 +0000

All I can really say here is “word.” I’m going through the same thing… and the worst thing is knowing that you can see the forest for the trees when they can’t, and that you have to let them find their own way. All you can do is hope that they will… and in the meantime, you can decide if you want to meet them on the other side.

By: egan

egan — Fri, 11 Jul 2008 19:25:30 +0000

I love how candid you are. It can’t be easy to chat about your dad or your friend in this way, but good on for sharing. At some point, you do have to cut them loose, for your own sanity. I hope she proves you wrong.

By: Vanessa

Vanessa — Fri, 11 Jul 2008 17:44:45 +0000

Perhaps your friend is not able to show up for *herself* in the way she needs to. If she is not able to hold herself accountable for her own actions, then there is very little left in her world besides judgment and blame (of others). It seems that she is in a great deal of pain, but that doesn’t make it ok to spew toxicity onto everyone around her including those that try to help. Sometimes in the interest of protecting your own well being, you HAVE to remove yourself from the situation. After all, if you give all your goodness, but there is not the return of it to fill you up inside, what will you be left with?

By: paisley

paisley — Fri, 11 Jul 2008 17:42:57 +0000

Because it seems to me that showing up for her means not showing up for me and I can not abide by that.

Words of wisdom, dear. Very touching and you are so full of insight and honesty. It’s hard having relationships with substance abusers. My sister is in recovery and it’s been a long, difficult road. I understand where you are with this.

BIG HUG.

By: Elizabeth

Elizabeth — Fri, 11 Jul 2008 14:47:47 +0000

Wow, this is incredibly insightful. I too wind myself up in a thousand knots for other people. The last time was for a friend whose husband had abused and cheated on her. But I slowly realized (after being immersed in the drama for months) that she had no intentions of leaving him, or even demanding a real change.

Something snapped in me. I still try my best for friends and family, but there always seems to come a point when I say, “If you have no intentions of taking my advice, please dont ask for it.” It’s a fine line to walk.

By: Miss Smack

Miss Smack — Fri, 11 Jul 2008 12:54:41 +0000

Fantastic post, insightful and moving.

Thanks for sharing it with me.

Cheers,
Smack

By: Jen

Jen — Fri, 11 Jul 2008 12:51:25 +0000

This must be so hard. Letting go of people you love because it’s the only thing to do, is such a difficult thing. I hope you know in your heart you’re doing the right thing, I hope she knows too.

By: Anica

Anica — Fri, 11 Jul 2008 09:55:30 +0000

For me, it is about how disappointed my parents got when I made one decision.

It is so powerful, the way our parents attitudes and decisions effect us to this day.

I always question my actions, even though I know that it is a good decision.

Sizzle, I hope that you heal from all of this and that letting go will help you heal your pain. Of course this will take some time.