Thread the Light
March 25, 2009 at 5:31 am | Posted in love | 88 CommentsA year and a half ago I met a man who made me believe in love again.
And last night, I let him go.
There’s a lot I could say but today I feel small and quiet. I can tell you this though: I am grateful for every moment The Fella and I shared.
The rest is mine to keep.
All mine.
“We made a plan that was subject to change/So whatever was it works out we both get the blame/In the arms of this low. . .” -The Swell Season, This Low
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Never an easy choice to make. My heart goes out to you.
Comment by i.e.— March 25, 2009 #
I’m so sorry to hear this, obviously any day we let love go is not a great day. I hope it is for the best and that with time days turn good again. Hugs.
Comment by Jen— March 25, 2009 #
I’m so sorry, Sizz. I think the Swell Season song you picked for your quote really captures the emotion appropriately. Hang in there.
xoJen
Comment by Jen— March 25, 2009 #
Sorry you’re going through that. How about a pick-me-up?
YOU LOOK FABULOUS.
Comment by whall— March 25, 2009 #
Sizzle, this is never easy. Much love and many hugs.
Comment by Annie— March 25, 2009 #
so sorry to hear.
Comment by cli— March 25, 2009 #
Ugh. I’m so sorry to hear that. Reading your story about him made ME believe in love again, too!
You know it was the right decision, I’m sure, but that doesn’t make it any easier. It sounds so stupid to say, “Hang in there,” but… Hang in there.
Comment by Stefanie— March 25, 2009 #
I believe people come in and out of our lives to teach us things. The Fella taught you to love. I wish I had a fella of my own.
Big Huge HUG!!!!
Comment by hotpinksox— March 25, 2009 #
I’m sorry.
Comment by Daisy— March 25, 2009 #
Hugs to you, hun. I know this whole process is very hard. I hope you get to take some time for you.
Comment by justrun— March 25, 2009 #
:(
Sorry to hear things didn’t work out in the end.
Comment by TC— March 25, 2009 #
I’m so sorry, hon. I was rooting for you guys.
But…when I first met E., all I was hoping for was someone I could truly love and someone who would blast my heart open. That experience alone makes it all worth while.
Better to have loved and lost? I hate to say it, but there’s truth going on there.
Take good care of yourself, por favor!
Comment by diane— March 25, 2009 #
Hugs. It sounds like you’re mind is in the right place… I know your heart will ache for a long time though.
Comment by kilax— March 25, 2009 #
So sorry to hear that it didn’t work out in the end, Sizzle. I was hoping it would, because you two seemed so great together… but maybe it was not the right time.
I am thinking of you.
Comment by san— March 25, 2009 #
I am so sorry things turned out this way. God breaking up just sucks!
Comment by Kandace— March 25, 2009 #
always here
xo
Comment by jenny 2 times— March 25, 2009 #
You’ve been doing a lot of soul searching lately. And I can’t help but think this is a well thought out decision. May each day get a little easier. A little brighter.
Comment by SoMi's Nilsa— March 25, 2009 #
at least you can say you gave it all you could. you opened your heart to love and that’s truly something.
take good care of you, dear.
Comment by brookem— March 25, 2009 #
Wow, I did the same thing. AGAIN. I hope you are doing better today than I am. It can only get better, right?
Comment by Jen— March 25, 2009 #
It’s a good thing to believe in love again.
lots of hugs to you
Comment by Marie— March 25, 2009 #
Lots of love to you, sweetie. I know how hard that is and I am here if you need to talk.
Comment by Hilly— March 25, 2009 #
I’m so sorry for you both.
Comment by kim— March 25, 2009 #
Each person brings something into our lives. The hard part is that it’s not always what we expect! I’m very impressed with your grace. Best wishes for happiness and knowing what’s best, even when it’s not the easiest, all around.
Comment by heels— March 25, 2009 #
I am sorry but, it is a good thing that you are focusing on the positive. Sending you hugs!
Comment by Christina— March 25, 2009 #
My heart hurts for you.
But I am glad he will always be part of the moments that make up your life.
XOXO
Comment by Catheroo— March 25, 2009 #
I’m so sorry!! I’ll be thinking of you and sending good thoughts your way!!
Comment by NGS— March 25, 2009 #
I’m sorry to hear it. But, sometimes we have to make hard choices. (Yada yada yada…you know I don’t want to speak in clichés…)
*hug*
Comment by Alison— March 25, 2009 #
*BIG HUGS*
Comment by Amber— March 25, 2009 #
Oh Sizzle- my heart breaks for you. I’m so sorry.
Comment by punchlinewalking— March 25, 2009 #
There’s nothing to say that will make you feel things less, but just know you have a lot of friends in the world that are thinking of you.
Comment by Tim— March 25, 2009 #
You are so strong. Please know that, hold your head up and feel how lucky you are to have experienced that love. And embrace all the ways in which it has changed you. Because you have changed him, too. You’re both better for the time you spent together.
Sending hugs,
TSM
Comment by tsmoregon— March 25, 2009 #
The good news is, you believe in love again.
Comment by LVGurl— March 25, 2009 #
NOOOOOooooooooooo!
Really?
Aw man…
Comment by Dumpling— March 25, 2009 #
I’m glad you guys had a lot of amazing time; whoever both of you end up with in the future will owe a debt of gratitude to your relationship. Heart.
Comment by sandra— March 25, 2009 #
I’m sorry to hear that, I’ll keep you both in my thoughts!
Comment by MoxieMamaKC— March 25, 2009 #
I’m happy to hear that you believe in love again. We learn so much from every relationship. Hugs!
Comment by bexinthecity— March 25, 2009 #
Thinking of you…
Comment by alissa— March 25, 2009 #
ah darling. UGH> I just hate the end of things. I like the startings so much better. I am thinking of you today.
Comment by amy— March 25, 2009 #
{Squeeze}
Comment by G-man— March 25, 2009 #
I’m sorry you’re going through this–it’s a hard decision to make.
Comment by Ginger— March 25, 2009 #
I’m so sorry to hear that. I hope you’re ok.
Comment by Kevin Spencer— March 25, 2009 #
I’m sorry. I hope you cherish all the good times, but begin to look forward to make new good times in the future.
Comment by Sarah— March 25, 2009 #
Oh, I’m so sorry to hear this. But I’m glad you had that time together, and that you have such great perspective so soon after it all happened. I’m thinking of you.
Comment by Jess— March 25, 2009 #
Hugs and wine. Anytime. xxx
Comment by Penelope— March 25, 2009 #
You’re so smart, I know you’ve done the right thing for you for now. BIg hugs.
Comment by Long Story Longer— March 25, 2009 #
At least he made you believe in love again, that is the best thing one can hope to get out of a relationship that has to end. Hugs.
Comment by Sitcomgirl— March 25, 2009 #
<3
Comment by jodi— March 25, 2009 #
I am so sorry. Big hugs to you.
Comment by Pants— March 25, 2009 #
So sorry to hear that, but glad that he was able to make that type of impact in your life.
Comment by Becky— March 25, 2009 #
Lots of love to you. It will get better, and we love you times a million.
Comment by abbersnail— March 25, 2009 #
I’ve never seen anything put so beautifully. I’m glad you two had the past year and a half – it sounds like you’re both better for it.
HUGS. Bunches of ‘em.
Comment by wordnerd— March 25, 2009 #
:-(
It’s always a bit sad to see relationships end, even when it’s on good terms, even when it’s said so beautifully.
I wish you all the luck and love and happiness!
Comment by Shaba— March 25, 2009 #
Love you, hon. Hugs and kisses to you today (and beyond)
Comment by Angella— March 25, 2009 #
Wine and Hugs…and more wine!
xo
Comment by sjane7272— March 25, 2009 #
Sorry about that. It’s always hard to make those decisions.
Take care…
Comment by garylapointe— March 25, 2009 #
I hope your belief in love remains, sizzle. I know this wasn’t an easy decision to make but the fact that you really wrestled with it and worked at it means that you have come to the best decision.
Sending you some hugs.
Comment by Jummy— March 25, 2009 #
(((HUGS))))
I’m sorry.
Comment by Gina— March 25, 2009 #
Only you can make that decision. But I am thinking kind thoughts to you and to the Fella. I’m sure it’s hard for him too. Peace.
Comment by Amy— March 25, 2009 #
Siz,
When my daughter was younger there would be times she faced disappointment. As many children do she wanted to sulk and cry about whatever was wrong. (Or what unfair thing her mother had this time.)
I always told her that we should always do two things.
1. Be happy for the good things that were, not unhappy because of some bad thing that is.
2. Not feed today’s happiness to yesterday’s dragon. (Holding a grudge does just that.) I’ve found if you let the past go the bad things will wither away and you can get on with feeling good about now.
Hope some of that makes sense. Sending you good thoughts.
TAG
Comment by TAG— March 25, 2009 #
Big hugs Sizzle.
Comment by suze— March 25, 2009 #
xoxo, sizzle. relationships are like seasons.
Comment by 180|360— March 25, 2009 #
I so know that feeling of sadness-but-no-regrets. It means you were in a good relationship, just not an infinite one. Consider me in your very well-populated hugs queue.
Comment by Cheryl— March 25, 2009 #
Have I read this post before? Or were you guys just on the brink before and it finally happened?
Either way, my condolences. It’s hardest to let go when they aren’t complete assholes. You’re both very mature to accept it wouldn’t work.
Comment by x— March 25, 2009 #
Delurking to send love and cookies.
Comment by Nickea— March 25, 2009 #
big hugs sizzle, big hugs.
Comment by katelin— March 25, 2009 #
Sorry. And not. Sorry.
Comment by kristi— March 25, 2009 #
i like what kim said.:)
Comment by gorillabuns— March 25, 2009 #
I’m sorry, too … a tough and rough decision. But things happen for a reason, your decision was sound, and the cycle will go back up again. I’m here for a drink when you want. :)
Comment by Matt— March 25, 2009 #
i’m so sorry to hear that…sending hugs to seattle for you.
Comment by dimensha— March 25, 2009 #
Shucks.
I’m sorry, Sizz. :(
Comment by Iron Fist— March 25, 2009 #
You’ll find peace about this soon, Sizzle, I know it. I’m sending a prayer your way.
Comment by Lady F— March 25, 2009 #
Decisions like this are always difficult. Many hugs and lots of love being sent your way.
Comment by nicoleantoinette— March 25, 2009 #
I want to say I’m sorry, but I’m also kinda happy for you because the end of one thing is always the beginning of another, and I have a feeling that there is lots of good stuff coming to you.
Comment by maja— March 26, 2009 #
Hugs.
Sounds like the right thing for you both… here’s to new adventure and to much happiness.
Comment by Nat— March 26, 2009 #
I’m really sorry, hon. I was pulling for you two crazy kids.
Comment by kapgar— March 26, 2009 #
Hugs and a bottle of cyber-red-wine :-)
Comment by SimplySassy— March 26, 2009 #
I am so very sorry. I hope you find lots of reasons to smile in the memories you made together.
Comment by Deb— March 26, 2009 #
Sorry I’m late to this one. I’ll echo the sorry, love and hugs from the other commenters.
Comment by Melissa— March 26, 2009 #
I am sorry….
Comment by gretchenneuman— March 26, 2009 #
Hugs to you Sizzle.
Comment by gibsondog— March 27, 2009 #
Dang it. I’m sorry to hear that!
You’re in my thougts hun! *hugs* <3
Comment by sam {temptingmama}— March 27, 2009 #
thougts = thoughts. But you knew that. ;)
Comment by sam {temptingmama}— March 27, 2009 #
HUGS Be gentle with yourself, love yourself. Call me if needed or wanted, I’m always up for a chat. Above all else, do whatever you need to do to take really good care of you right now.
Comment by Vanessa— March 27, 2009 #
I’m just so sorry. :(
Comment by Maggie, dammit— March 28, 2009 #
Sorry to hear this. Breakups are hard. Hope the healing time is bearable.
Comment by martymankins— March 30, 2009 #
{{{Hugs}}} You know we love you.
Comment by sue— April 2, 2009 #
I could just say, ditto to the comments above. (((HUG)))
Comment by Z— April 4, 2009 #
I’m the only one in this world. Can please someone join me in this life? Or maybe death…
Comment by FafJatAtoma— April 23, 2009 #