Thread the Light

A year and a half ago I met a man who made me believe in love again.

And last night, I let him go.

There’s a lot I could say but today I feel small and quiet. I can tell you this though: I am grateful for every moment The Fella and I shared.

The rest is mine to keep.

All mine.

“We made a plan that was subject to change/So whatever was it works out we both get the blame/In the arms of this low. . .” -The Swell Season, This Low


88 thoughts on “Thread the Light

  1. I’m so sorry to hear this, obviously any day we let love go is not a great day. I hope it is for the best and that with time days turn good again. Hugs.

  2. I’m so sorry, Sizz. I think the Swell Season song you picked for your quote really captures the emotion appropriately. Hang in there.

  3. Ugh. I’m so sorry to hear that. Reading your story about him made ME believe in love again, too!

    You know it was the right decision, I’m sure, but that doesn’t make it any easier. It sounds so stupid to say, “Hang in there,” but… Hang in there.

  4. I’m so sorry, hon. I was rooting for you guys.
    But…when I first met E., all I was hoping for was someone I could truly love and someone who would blast my heart open. That experience alone makes it all worth while.
    Better to have loved and lost? I hate to say it, but there’s truth going on there.
    Take good care of yourself, por favor!

  5. So sorry to hear that it didn’t work out in the end, Sizzle. I was hoping it would, because you two seemed so great together… but maybe it was not the right time.

    I am thinking of you.

  6. You’ve been doing a lot of soul searching lately. And I can’t help but think this is a well thought out decision. May each day get a little easier. A little brighter.

  7. at least you can say you gave it all you could. you opened your heart to love and that’s truly something.

    take good care of you, dear.

  8. Each person brings something into our lives. The hard part is that it’s not always what we expect! I’m very impressed with your grace. Best wishes for happiness and knowing what’s best, even when it’s not the easiest, all around.

  9. I’m sorry to hear it. But, sometimes we have to make hard choices. (Yada yada yada…you know I don’t want to speak in clichΓ©s…)


  10. There’s nothing to say that will make you feel things less, but just know you have a lot of friends in the world that are thinking of you.

  11. You are so strong. Please know that, hold your head up and feel how lucky you are to have experienced that love. And embrace all the ways in which it has changed you. Because you have changed him, too. You’re both better for the time you spent together.

    Sending hugs,


  12. I’m glad you guys had a lot of amazing time; whoever both of you end up with in the future will owe a debt of gratitude to your relationship. Heart.

  13. I’m sorry. I hope you cherish all the good times, but begin to look forward to make new good times in the future.

  14. Oh, I’m so sorry to hear this. But I’m glad you had that time together, and that you have such great perspective so soon after it all happened. I’m thinking of you.

  15. I’ve never seen anything put so beautifully. I’m glad you two had the past year and a half – it sounds like you’re both better for it.

    HUGS. Bunches of ’em.

  16. 😦
    It’s always a bit sad to see relationships end, even when it’s on good terms, even when it’s said so beautifully.
    I wish you all the luck and love and happiness!

  17. I hope your belief in love remains, sizzle. I know this wasn’t an easy decision to make but the fact that you really wrestled with it and worked at it means that you have come to the best decision.

    Sending you some hugs.

  18. Only you can make that decision. But I am thinking kind thoughts to you and to the Fella. I’m sure it’s hard for him too. Peace.

  19. Siz,

    When my daughter was younger there would be times she faced disappointment. As many children do she wanted to sulk and cry about whatever was wrong. (Or what unfair thing her mother had this time.)

    I always told her that we should always do two things.

    1. Be happy for the good things that were, not unhappy because of some bad thing that is.
    2. Not feed today’s happiness to yesterday’s dragon. (Holding a grudge does just that.) I’ve found if you let the past go the bad things will wither away and you can get on with feeling good about now.

    Hope some of that makes sense. Sending you good thoughts.


  20. I so know that feeling of sadness-but-no-regrets. It means you were in a good relationship, just not an infinite one. Consider me in your very well-populated hugs queue.

  21. Have I read this post before? Or were you guys just on the brink before and it finally happened?

    Either way, my condolences. It’s hardest to let go when they aren’t complete assholes. You’re both very mature to accept it wouldn’t work.

  22. I’m sorry, too … a tough and rough decision. But things happen for a reason, your decision was sound, and the cycle will go back up again. I’m here for a drink when you want. πŸ™‚

  23. I want to say I’m sorry, but I’m also kinda happy for you because the end of one thing is always the beginning of another, and I have a feeling that there is lots of good stuff coming to you.

  24. HUGS Be gentle with yourself, love yourself. Call me if needed or wanted, I’m always up for a chat. Above all else, do whatever you need to do to take really good care of you right now.

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