I received an email last week from a company that shall remain nameless offering me either a giveaway of their product or an opportunity to review their product.
If you’ve read Sizzle Says for any amount of time you know I am not big into doing these sorts of things. I don’t have ads on my website. I am involved with one company- Nintendo- who, in my opinion, could teach most other brands how to work with bloggers. They treat us right- they respect us, ask for our opinion, keep us in the loop of new products, and throw some really wickedly cool parties (total bonus!). I’m proud to work with them.
But then you have companies like the one that approached me last week. Granted, they are small potatoes compared to a giant like Nintendo but still, it was clear they had not done their research and didn’t really have their act together. I’m sure you’ve gotten the emails that start with, “Hi (insert your blog name here)! I love your blog! Blah blah blah.” Right about in that first sentence is when you can rest assured they have never actually read your blog.
Like this woman who wrote to me attempting to promote this business that makes clothes. Pretty cute, retro-inspired clothes, actually. Clothes I would have been happy to have tried and if I had liked, spread the word about. But unfortunately our exchange went something like this:
She writes me offering a giveaway or a review. Her company sells dresses mostly.
I write her and say I’m potentially interested but I don’t promote products I don’t have personal experience with so I would only be interested in a review. I point out that I am a plus-sized woman and would require a dress that fits a 16/18. (I have checked the site and see they have a small offering of clothing that fits this description.)
She writes back with a list of dresses that are available for review. They are not in any sort of order and have no links so I have to scroll through the entire site looking them up one-by-one. I realize that none of the ones she has sent me are from their plus-sized line.
I write her back and say that unfortunately none of the dresses she offered me for review come in my size. I ask if any of those options for me.
She writes back that she is authorized to give such-and-such dresses (plus sized dresses) away for a giveaway only, not for a review. She understands if it won’t work out.
Here is where I get really annoyed. Why would a plus-sized dress be available for a giveaway but NOT for a review? Either way they are giving it away.
So I write back again. I ask that question. I also say something along the lines of – I talk a lot on my blog about the frustration fashionable plus sized women feel with the fashion industry. I’m not going to giveaway a dress I couldn’t wear myself. This is very disappointing.
I mean THEY HAVE THE DRESSES! but for some very strange and inexplicable reason, they can’t give me one to review, only giveaway. WTF?
Her answers were convoluted and unsatisfying and not worth documenting. Let’s just say there will be no review or giveaway and I am purposely not linking to their site because I don’t want to give them any business.
I debated writing about it but it is still bothering me. Not the fact that I didn’t get a free dress. No, I don’t care about free shit. I can buy myself a dress if I want. It’s just that same old fact that it’s nearly impossible to find cute, fashionable clothes that fit a woman larger than a size 14. Does the fashion industry not understand how much money they could potentially be making if they made these clothes? There are a lot of women out there who want to look fashionable and yet are relegated to the basements of department stores with measly offerings of clothes made out of crap fabric, or forced to buy their wardrobe on line because apparently plus-sized clothing takes up too much space in their actual stores (Hi! Old Navy!) or, my personal favorite, made to shop in a section that is combined with the maternity section (and the maternity clothes are cuter) (I am looking at YOU, Target!) because apparently being fat is the same as being pregnant.
It makes me so irate.
I am SO SICK of this pervasive attitude that slaps me in the face daily saying- if you are plus sized, you are not good enough. That is the message I and so many others are receiving over and over again- from the fashion industry, the magazines, TV, etc. ad nauseum. Fuck the people who spread that bullshit. Fuck me for listening to it for so many years. Fuck all those years I looked at accessories while my friends who were smaller tried on a mountain of cute clothes. Fuck all those stores that don’t carry a size larger than a 14.
Shame will never ever make a person thin. Just more miserable.
I have a lot more to say about this but am going to break it up into a series of posts.