I have a friend in need of help so I’m coming to you, internet friends. Because the internet has shown me time and again that it is helpful and compassionate and generous.
(Remember when my cats got sick and the internet helped me pay for one cat’s vet bill? $1200! The internet is awesome.)
My friend, Phil, is an amazing man. I’ve known him since high school -that’s 20 years for those counting. He actually visited Seattle last summer and we got to reconnect. On that trip he talked a lot about his kids, Cali (11) and Gus (7). He beams with pride and love when he shares stories about them.
But coloring all that good stuff is a lot of sadness. You see, Phil and his ex-wife have had a contentious divorce and it’s involved a lot of lawyers, court dates, negotiation, and tears. Just a few weeks ago a Maryland Judge ruled that Phil’s ex-wife can move their kids 800 miles away to Georgia from the only home they’ve really even known, where their school, friends, community, and dad are. Why!? When even the lawyer for the kids recommended against it. Even when Phil had a very strong case. Even when his ex-wife’s lawyer thought the judge would rule in Phil’s favor..
Dads often get a bad rap- and some of them deserve it- but Phil is an outstanding father. He would do anything for his children and is, since he’s burned through all his savings, his parents savings, and taken out a loan to pay for all the legal fees incurred to fight for his children. He’s currently stuck between a big rock and a very hard place. He will not live away from his kids but if he moves to Georgia the nearest place of employment for him is 2 hours away from where his ex-wife plans to relocate. (He has a specialized military job.) That would mean he couldn’t see his kids very much or be a part of their daily lives (he currently has the kids every other day). Plus, he’s locked into a specific child support payment that he would not be able to make if he left this field of work.
To appeal the judge’s ruling he needs $18,000 to cover legal fees. He’s putting his story out there, as hard as it is to ask for help, hoping others will be moved to donate.
If you would like to read more about Phil’s story and/or contribute, please click over now. Every little bit helps.
Thank you, kind internets. I know you’ll be good to my dear friend.