I woke up to an email from our contact at our wedding venue telling me that our rehearsal time for Saturday at 3pm no longer works because the wedding that night has moved their start time up to 4pm thus meaning that set up will be happening starting at 2pm.
This comes right after I spent hours upon hours locating a last minute location for a post-rehearsal gathering. The future in-laws decided they’d like to host something like that and so I tried to find a place within budget that could give us a semi-private space for 20 people. It was not easy as many places have $1000 minimums when you get to that number of people and we’re less than 2 weeks away. And being in downtown Seattle means most restaurants are a bit pricier. I finally found something yesterday afternoon after many emails and calls, put a hold on it, and called my future mother-in-law to tell her the good news. I was relieved to have another thing crossed off my long to do list.
I’m trying to be Zen here. I’m taking the “imperfect is perfect” approach. But who emails a bride less than 2 weeks before her rehearsal to casually say she needs to change the rehearsal time we agreed on months ago to a different day?? It really bothers me that she didn’t even apologize for the massive inconvenience she is laying on me when I am in the midst of the most chaotic pre-wedding time. How does a couple change their wedding time this close to it I wonder? It makes me think she’s known of this time change prior but is only now getting around to telling me.
I’m just not happy at all with how this shakes out. Not only do I have to cancel the reservation that took me a lot of work to secure for the rehearsal happy hour now but I have to start over to find a place for a gathering that could host an earlier time. I have to tell the band, our photographers, and the entire bridal party that sorry to throw a wrench into your day where you had free time, you now have to show up earlier for this rehearsal. And my sister who is in charge of putting all the flowers together was going to use Saturday morning to assemble them. It’s a lot of work and she needs that time. We were going to give all the decorations and supplies, including the flowers, to our day-of coordinator at the 3pm rehearsal. It was all going to work so perfectly.
And now this.
I’m sure it will all work out. I will make sure it does. But who the hell needs this kind of bullshit so close to the wedding? I certainly could do without it.
I really need to not check my email on my iPhone when I’m just waking up. I don’t need to start the day stressed when I haven’t even woken up entirely yet!