I’m lucky. I get to marry the man I love. But in the midst of all my wedding joy, I can’t help thinking about my friends who do not have the right to marry the person they love. I know that a lot of people believe that marriage is between a man and a woman. I know that many people feel strongly about their religious views and don’t approve of homosexuality- think that it is a choice or that it can be “cured.”
For me though, we’re talking about people that I love who just want the same rights that heterosexual couples have. I do not think that my marriage is in any way diminished if a gay couple has the right to get married. In fact, I think it strengthens what marriage is- the ultimate expression of love between two people.
In this election Washingtonians will have the opportunity to pass Referendum 74 which would legalize same-sex marriage in the state. When I think about this referendum, I think about Tomato and his long-time boyfriend, Jenny Two Times- my friend who can officiate our ceremony but can’t marry her girlfriend if she wanted to, my bosses who have been with their partners for years, my cousin, my friends Matt & Scott, and countless other people who have touched my life. To me this referendum is very personal. Denying the right to marry to same-sex couples is a violation of civil rights.
When people who are against same-sex marriage bring in the topic of children, I get even more upset. How many of us were raised by divorced or single parents? I do not believe that you need to have both parents to be “good” or that being parents means there is a man and a woman. Kids need love, direction, protection, and nurturing. It doesn’t matter if that’s two women, a man and a woman, or two men in my book. Protestors of gay marriage say that children will have to learn about same-sex relationships if this law is passed. To that I say, GOOD! Because there is nothing wrong with being gay! And you can’t make a person gay so stop being so afraid of talking about it. I liken that line of thinking to those who say we shouldn’t teach kids about sex because then they will have it. What? This is nonsense to me.
I hope come election day Washingtonians pass Referendum 74 and it is only the beginning of a tidal wave acceptance and fairness that will spread across the country. If you’re in Washington, I urge you to consider voting yes on Referendum 74 in this election.
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